If you have decided to end your marriage, you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse may squabble about property division or spousal support. Because having two involved parents is good for kids, though, you may have already decided to share custody of your children.
The first few weeks and months of any co-parenting relationship can be difficult. After all, successfully shuffling the kids between two households takes some practice. Addressing custody transfers in your parenting plan may help you to keep conflict in check.
What is a custody transfer?
Custody transfers are simply the brief meetups you have with your ex-spouse to swap the kids. These meetings occur when your scheduled parenting time begins and ends. Depending on the age of your children and other factors, you may not have to see your ex-spouse during custody transfers.
Where do custody transfers take place?
Custody transfers can occur virtually anywhere. The most effective transfer sites, however, typically have the following characteristics:
- The transfer site is neutral.
- The transfer site is convenient for both parents and kids.
- The transfer site is safe.
If you fear your ex-spouse may endanger you or your children, you have the option of having a supervised transfer. You may also be able to exchange the kids at a police station or another public building.
How do custody transfers work?
For successful custody transfers, the parent who has the kids prepares them for the exchange. This may include packing necessary belongings, dressing the children appropriately or feeding them before each swap.
Like most other divorce-related matters, you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse can negotiate the terms of your custody transfers. Ultimately, with some advance planning, you likely boost your chances of having low-stress custody transfers.